kindergarten really shouldn't be this stressful...

I used to privately bemoan the fact that Benjamin misses the Chicago Public Schools cut off because of his late-November birthday (and Caroline for that matter, though she misses it by a smaller margin). He's so socially needy that looking at him starting school when he's almost 6 seems like an eternity to me. However, as we're marching ever closer to him beginning kindergarten, I feel the need to start researching my options, at least doing some preliminary research. So, in that sense, I'm happy that I have 2 1/2 years in which to make a decision, versus 1 1/2 years.

• Option #1: Homeschool. This is not my first choice and not appealing to me for various reasons (though I would be willing to do it). First, as I mentioned, Ben is extremely social and I think this would be detrimental to him. Second, it would drive me crazy. Being with my children all day long is hard for me. While it's true that as they get older it is getting easier, it is still a challenge for me every week. Third, I want him to learn to trust other adults and be in a classroom setting where he develops relationships with other children. That said, I would do it if I thought it was best for him -- if there was a situation in which he was being bullied or having difficulties with a teacher.
  
• Option #2: Public School. Unfortunately in our neighborhood, our local elementary school is not an option for us. I attended exclusively public schools, from 1st grade through my undergraduate degree. However, I was in one of the best districts in my state, so it was a no-brainer for my parents. Here, it's a different story. I'd love to be that family who has so much faith in God that they send their children to public school and the school and community is changed as a result of their faithfulness, as I've heard others testify. I just don't feel called to do that and feel strongly that in our present community & environment, my child would be thrown into a very difficult situation that he's not equipped to handle at such a young age. I grieve for children who don't have the option (through lack of resources or parents who don't care) for anything other than our neighborhood school. There are charter schools and magnet schools that I would consider and will be open to Chicago public high schools, should my kids place into one of the magnets and should we be in the city that long. I really love the idea of public schools and wish that this was a viable option for us.
  
• Option #3: Christian School. This is the most likely scenario for us. I would be sending my children to christian school so that their education would be in line with our worldview, though I strongly believe that it is my responsibility as a parent to teach my child about the Lord and the way we view the world. However, having narrowed it down to christian school leaves many options out there. Most of the children that we know of school age go to a specific christian school a few miles from where we live. By all accounts, it's a good school with caring teachers and an emotionally safe environment. This school is almost entirely african-american, with a handful of caucasian kids scattered around. I do worry about my children and the struggles they might have over identity being (1) bi-racial and (2) living in a predominantly african-american community. My personal preference would be for something a little more diverse since we live in a city so rich with other cultures. However, I'm not sure that I would want to take Ben away from his friends in the neighborhood who attend that school either. Plus, money is a factor as well.

Ugh. Just thinking about all of this makes my head hurt. I'm glad to have a long time to think about this!